Poll: Do you enjoy socialising? Or it is an anxiety fest?

  • Enjoy it
  • Meh
  • Anxiety fest

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I’m meeting up with an old friend tonight who I haven’t seen for a year. I’m feeling anxious about it instead of looking forward to it.

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I never socialise …

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I like socializing =)
I learn a lot of new things when I talk to my friends, new things to try, discount stores, job openings, juicy gossip sometimes, new food ideas etc.

I have very close friends like family, they almost know everything about me and me about them too. We also help each other with anxiety or problems.

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I voted enjoy it but that’s only when it’s one on one. Groups just make me anxious

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I prefer to socialise(I do it very rarely) at somewhere like a cafe . The whole thing of socialising at home and knowing what you should or shouldn’t do throws me.

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It’s called beer :stuck_out_tongue:

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Meh :expressionless:
Before the illness I used to socialize, although I’ve never been a social butterfly.
But now the flat affect makes it so that I don’t find it rewarding.

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I like socialising, as long as I can withdraw when I need to.
But I don’t like huge crowds or being around a lot of people I don’t know.

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Spcialoising makes me very anxious I grnerally have small talk ready proor to Umeeting someone

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I chose meh. I like hanging out with people I know, preferably just my best bud, but I can handle one or two other people being there, I just get quieter. It doesn’t usually cause me anxiety to be in larger groups, but I do get uncomfortable and very quiet.

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The main problem with socializing with normies is that the usual question that come up like: How is your job? How is your wife/girlfriend/kids? What are your plans for the future? What are you doing these days? Where do you live? Taken any trips lately? What are you driving? are generally unanswerable. Quite honestly I have nothing to say to them these days. Of course that leads to anxiety.

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I’m mostly torn on socializing. I get very stressed out by it now that I am ill, but I remember times when I used to like it and miss my friends. So I go hang out with them very occasionally and always get over stressed when doing so, then I need my cave time for a long period.

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I can relate to that. Even when I really would like to see someone (in theory) it’s stressful for me when the time comes to actually get together.

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That’s so true! I have a few FB friends that I haven’t seen since we were all kids. They seem like nice women, but they come across as very normal. They also had normal/steady, even privileged childhoods. A few of them have suggested getting together with me, which is nice, but I have nothing to share/relate with them. My experiences are full of holes…

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I tend to avoid socializing. I tend to stick at home in my apartment doing my own thing. That’s just me. It’s not a matter of anxiety for me. It’s just that I am introverted.

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I’m good in small groups crowds overwhelm me unless I’m on meds. I have a strong grasp on socialization, it’s when I’m alone and trying to be in solitude that I run into issues and become alienated trying to block the external world out.

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I am mostly anhedonic when I socialise, it sucks cause I still enjoy my friends or family. But yeah, I have no pleasure at all. I have lack of positive emotions too a lot…

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Surprisingly for someone who is schizophrenic I yearn to have more friends and get out when I can, and enjoy it too…however I do get obsessed about my looks, I’m a bit neurotic when it comes to my hair and if I think I don’t look good on a night out this will affect my confidence levels, however for someone who doesn’t go out much due to the fact I have a non existent social circle I am actually fairly social on a night out, especially if it is with people that I know and like and if I have had a bit of alcohol and I think I look good (nice clothes and a new haircut). Not always been like this though, I’ve been extroverted and introverted at different periods in my life, when I was in primary school I was extroverted however surprisingly towards the end of my high school when I was 18 I was very introverted, due to a number on reasons which I wont go into just now as id be here all day. Though when I left hospital when I was 20 (I’m now 24) I was extroverted thanks to me being in hospital for 5 months straight. I do have a fragile shell though, I’m easy to break and scratch away at the surface, exposing my anxiety and flaws.

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Hello!

I really enjoy a lot being around people, socializing with them. I only feel anxious when I talk to a girl I really like.

I know a lot of persons and I have a great relationship with my colleagues, but for some reasons, I’m totally unable to make personal friends. I thought a lot about that but still I cannot find the reason why. I’m going to talk about that to my psychiatrist to see if she has an idea about that, if someone could help, like a psychotherapist for example.

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I hate being superficial. I feel guilty because my mother was a society woman and that I should be like her.

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