I asked this girl out and she’s a good person at all. She went to my high school and she knows me before sza. Well I figured she would know I had MI. I figured everyone gossiped about me but she claim she didn’t know. Well I think she stigmatized me. "NO I WILL CERTAINLY NOT GO OUT WITH SOMEONE WITH A MENTAL ILLNESS ". But not in those words she was much nicer but I think she was thinking that. Like my idea of hanging with her was an insane idea because she has her normy life to deal with.
Well anyways I was so damn polite to her when she rejected me. I found and searched and searched some more for the niceness of her message. I ignored the stigma, I embraced the nice. And thanked her. And told her I hope she has a great time doing what she’s doing. And I was just uber polite. Too polite to be a normie. Only us sz who have faced years of rejection and learned the best ways to deal with it (take the high road and tip your hat) could have delivered this level of empathy. Normies don’t know to do this… they pout a bit more and call each other names. But I had a sz level of empathy and friendliness and niceness. She responded “wow thank you so much!!! ”
I think I erased a bit of stigma with this one individual.
I may not have a job, or much of a life like normies do. But the sz part of me,…I know how to make people feel good. Which is the #1 thing I could’ve done for this girl in the end. And I did. Maybe she will embrace the light seperate from the dark going forward a little bit more. Baby steps!! Folks!!!