I don’t like small talk at all. This makes me totally hate the hairdressers.
Talking/listening is like listening to music. I studied music.
Just like music, in the same way when talking people may repeat phrases, pause (rest) crescendo, diminuendo, go forte or piano (loud soft). Legato or staccato.
This makes matters very very complex. You spot many things others don’t if they are not fully aqaintatned with this concept. This is a simple but very very deep thing.
You may spot a lie, manipulation tactics. Many things. Simple things. But very deep matters at play. So talking and listening is both difficult.
Such a simple thing talking. But a very complex one too