Yes, I think so. I also think that’s why some women say things like “men have to start saying abuse isn’t OK”. I’ve heard a lot of women say something like that, and I think it’s pretty stupid. Why do they assume men in general do not speak up against abuse? It’s like they’ve never had a conversation with a normal man about this, and just assume all men are potential rapists. Women and men both need to speak up against abuse, and most women and men already do.
Anyway, that was a slightly different discussion. But yes, I feel douchebags and abusers give men a bad rep. I feel if I walk 10 meters behind a woman at night, she will assume I’m a potential rapist. I feel if I smile at a kid on the subway, their mom will think I might be a pedophile. The first one I can understand. People get raped and mugged on the street, and it’s usually by men. But the second one is stupid. Women can be pedophiles too, but they do not get that reputation. Men are disproportionately blamed for a lot of criminal things. It’s not just my opinion, it’s fact. Criminal courts are more lenient on women, probably because it’s harder for us to imagine a woman being guilty of doing morally wrong things than a man.